It’s Not About Controlling Anger; It’s About Expressing It Differently!

“I can’t control my anger. Something inside me boils up in a few seconds and It erupts.” “I want to break everything." "I feel like I lose all my senses at that time.” We experience this kind of stuff after an episode of anger. And we regret it big time. We hurt ourselves and others in the process. It creates negative thoughts in us. “Everything happened because of me”, we start blaming ourselves.

But the real questions are: “What can we do to control our anger? What are the coping Strategies? The management skills? Any method that can help us not regretting things in life? "

Everything starts with having an insight. In case of anger, person should know what these emotions are about. Why is he experiencing certain emotions? Is it because of the present situation or something from the past? When was the last time he experienced such emotions; & what was the reason back then?

When a person has answered all these questions, that’s when he would move to another step i.e., “how he would control anger or express it……. differently.”

Remember, this is not a one time process. You need lots of practice until you master it. Certain techniques that one can use in their lives to control anger are:

Think, Then Speak!

While in an argument, you should not plunge onto others. Instead, stop & consider thinking for a second. Take a deep breath, if needed. And then speak WITH CLEAR MIND.

Yeah! You should express your anger. Do it!! Tell them, what made you angry. But! In a more polite way.

Inverse Relationship between Exercise and Anger

Several researches have shown that exercise releases happy hormones. Even a 30 minutes long walk or jogging will do miracles. You don’t trust me? Okay, do it for 30 minutes each day.

Can’t take out the time? Okay, then do it when you are angry or under a lot of stress. You’ll feel much better.

AND! If you can't go for a walk or exercise then the next tip is for you!

Meditation/ Yoga

“Feel the nature. Not at its best. But, at your best!”

Meditation doesn’t require you to go anywhere. Do it at your most enjoyable place and in your most comfortable clothes. It makes your head clear from all the negative thoughts and allows you to take logical decisions against external and internal conflicts at hand.

Practice Forgiveness

One of the most difficult tasks is to forgive; be it forgiving yourself or others. But believe me! It's worth it. When you literally start forgiving others for their wrongdoings, your mind would automatically feel at ease. Why? Because you just plucked off the root cause of your anger.