Adorn Yourself

There lies a difference in self loving and being selfish. And I guess there isn't any confusion between these two expressions about one’s self. But, most of the time when people talk about themselves in an expressive way, they often fail to disentangle the two expressions of one’s behavioral analysis. Intestinally, folks talk about their pains and anxieties in a way that gives an expression as if it is a thing operating in an intricate manner with them. What happens when one talks about his/her own self in a way that makes a sense of being continuously subjected to pain? Pain for one’s mind is objective in nature which has a difference in its operation and definition of exercise. People attach symbolic meaning in the context of emotions with the pain and anxiety which gives meaning and that’s perfectly fine. But Pain and anxiety are often related as happening in a meaningful way resulting in suffering and a phenomenon that lasts its effect throughout the span of life.

What happens when someone asks “How are you? How's everything going?..”. The most expected answer is “I am surviving”. This answer develops a sense that it is the lowest level of living when one says he/she is surviving. First of all, we have to develop this notion of surviving as it is the highest level of living with the entire pace and velocity of one’s exposure to pain and hazards of life. When we are trapped in difficult situations in a circle of life which is labeled as normal, our mind starts revolving our thinking around that particular problem. Instead of doing so, we can reverse the process and stop rethinking the problem and move towards innovation of ideas that might be helpful to resolve the problem. Or at least reduce the stress of not pointing towards the solution to the problem.

‘If—’.

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;

If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same…

Rudyard Kipling,

Consider the world a beautiful garden and yes you are pointing right. Garden is full of flowers and thrones. They go side by side along with each other. The thrones are good for the protection of the flower. Whereas, the same thrones harm others who touch them or try to pluck the flower from the stem. Same explanation applies to human life. There isn’t a life without tensions and worries. Pain, tensions, workloads, anxiety and depressions are an essential part of human growth and prosperity of mind. These things are normal and practical, more or less emotional as well. While describing these, to yourself and others too, try not to forget how you actually made your mind for them.

Adorn yourself, your mind. Whenever in a worry, try to engage with activities that look casual and ordinary but give you relief. Take a hot shower to relax your muscles and skin pores, move your body in a way you like the most, take a nap, eat your favorite food, talk to a friend and that friend could be you. Spice your mind with all the papers of different colors so it may help you to make pleasant visual effects in your mind. Surround yourself with colors of life, shades of behaviors, dynamics of worries and variety of food. Being an introvert kind of an extrovert sometimes gains you nothing but in the opposite direction. In no gain, there is a lot you gain. Do yourself a favor. Just adorn yourself as if you came from a garden of love and tasting real grapes instead of vine.